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Are You Suffering From Election Stress Disorder Too?

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Are You Suffering From Election Stress Disorder Too?

How many hours of election coverage have you watched since November 3rd? Be honest now. For me, I started the morning of Election Day by watching Hamilton so I could put myself in a patriotic mood.

Then around 12 pm, I switched the channel to CNN. It is the only channel that has been on my TV for the last 72 hours. I have been staying awake until midnight each night watching the news.

Are You Suffering From Election Stress Disorder Too

That is a lot of hours. It has been an incredibly stressful time for me, and all of my fellow Americans. There is a term for it, and it is called Election Stress Disorder.

“America will never be destroyed from the outside. If we falter and lose our freedoms, it will be because we destroyed ourselves.” – Abraham Lincoln

What exactly is Election Stress Disorder?

According to Dr. Robert Bright, and a Mayo Clinic article, election stress disorder is not a real mental health diagnosis, but there is no doubt that this contentious election is causing anxiety and tension on a national level. Anxiety and stress are both very real. Dr. Bright reminds us of the effects of those:

“We notice it in our bodies, the tension in our shoulders. Sometimes people get GI (gastrointestinal) upset or headaches. People have trouble sleeping.

There’s a lot of sleep disturbance going on right now — tossing, turning and worrying, and not being able to get to sleep — or having bad dreams about the election. (There is) a lot of fearfulness (and) a number of mixed emotions ― people with fear and hypervigilance and constantly searching the news and being on whatever social media outlet you have, and getting these messages.

I was watching the television this morning, and every commercial has this catastrophic message, ‘If you vote for this guy or that guy, horrific, catastrophic things are going to happen.’ And that constant message creates a sense of anxiety and fear and diffusely feeling overwhelmed in ourselves.

And it affects our emotions after a while. So we start getting irritable and short and snapping at people, not trusting people, seeing people as the other, or the same. And that starts affecting our relationships at home. It starts affecting our work.”

It is affecting our streets too. Walmart pulled all the guns and ammo from their shelves because they were worried about civil unrest. Cities boarded up businesses in case there were riots in the streets. I have seen nothing like this in my lifetime.

“Let each citizen remember at the moment he is offering his vote… that he is executing one of the most solemn trusts in human society for which he is accountable to God and his country.” – Samuel Adams

How many people are affected?

A study by the American Psychological Association proves that Election Stress Disorder is another thing that unites us as Americans and is a bipartisan issue.

The study states, “more than two-thirds of U.S. adults (68%) say that the 2020 U.S. presidential election is a significant source of stress in their life, a large increase from the 2016 presidential election when 52% said the same, according to a new survey conducted by The Harris Poll on behalf of the American Psychological Association.

The survey also found that regardless of political affiliation, majorities say that the election is a significant source of stress (76% of Democrats, 67% of Republicans, and 64% of Independents).”

I have a diverse group of people on my social media, and I say this seems to be accurate. The Trump supporters are convinced that their vote is now meaningless because they genuinely believe that there is “so much fraud and he will lose because it’s rigged.”

The Biden supporters are disheartened because it is so incredibly close, and the Democratic party didn’t win as many victories as they hoped they would. They struggle with knowing that so many people support a candidate they see as a bully, a liar, and frankly dangerous.

The Trump supporters see the Biden supporters the same way; like they are socialists who want to ruin America. No one understands one another. No matter what ‘camp’ you find yourself in, you are likely feeling exhausted, especially as this continues on.

I know that my children are tired of the news being on. We don’t watch a lot of news and my son just wants to play his video game. I get it, kid; I wish I could just watch The Bold and The Beautiful or Lucifer. But like many of my fellow American’s I am glued to the John King and the ‘Magic Wall.’

How Election Stress Disorder is shaping the world

I heard from someone today that she feels her vote doesn’t count because the election is not in our control. She feels the counters, the supervisors, and the government are skewing the numbers and ensuring they get the outcome they want.

This is a college-educated professional who believes there is no point in voting because it is all fake. She is not alone, and if Americans lose faith in our election process, where does that leave us? Voting is the cornerstone of our democracy. It is what sets us apart from our origins in England. 

To quote King George from Hamilton, “George Washington’s yielding his power and stepping away ‘Zat true? I wasn’t aware that was something a person could do. I’m perplexed. Are they gonna keep on replacing whoever’s in charge? If so, who’s next?” 

That is what we do every four years. We replace our leadership through the voting process, and then power transitions peacefully. It has worked that way for centuries.

We have had 58 presidential elections over the course of our history, and the world has watched us get through it. The winner accepts the great responsibility of leading this great nation, and the party who is not elected transfers power peacefully.

Countries around the world have adopted similar election processes because we proved it could be done. Now, our allies and our opponents are watching this election like hawks. Will we live up to our promise, or will we unravel? Our allies are feeling the tension of this election, too. 

So what exactly are the leaders in other countries saying about the US election? Germany’s defense minister, Annegret Kramp-Karrenbauer, said the uncertainty clouding our election is “a very explosive situation.”

She added, “This is a situation that can lead to a constitutional crisis in the U.S., as experts are rightly saying, and it is something that must cause us great concern.”

Also in Germany, parliamentarian Norbert Röttgen told NPR that Trump’s unwarranted victory speech demonstrated “a total lack of respect for the law. [The] counting process is ongoing. Nobody has a basis or a right to declare victory.” 

France is questioning our entire electoral process. French journalist Sylvie Kauffmann said leaving the decision to the states “creates a lot of disparities and complicates the counting of votes at the national level.” The states determining who the leader is going to be is a foundational piece of our democracy, but other countries are viewing it as a flaw in our process.

Daniel Finkelstein, a UK writer, opened his piece by saying, “It is hard to look at our closest ally without concluding that it is in trouble.” If our closest ally can see this, then our most dangerous enemies can too.

Again, no matter what camp you are in, this should be concerning. The world is questioning our ability to govern ourselves. This moves beyond tension and anxiety and becomes a legitimate cause for stress. 

“[The spirit of party] opens the door to foreign influence and corruption, which finds a facilitated access to the government itself through the channels of party passions.” – George Washington

Is there a way to combat Election Stress Disorder?

Find an activity that calms you and make some time for that. I think this is too important an issue to step away from, but it is important to take care of yourself.

Arguing, with people on social media will not change the outcome, so limit the energy you spend engaging with people who share false information. In fact, I have removed them from my friend’s list.

To be clear, not because they disagree with me on policies, but because they are contributing to a larger problem. If you can’t handle the play-by-play of the changing landscape of votes, then don’t watch the live coverage. Instead, just check in every once in a while. 

I wish all of us well. Hopefully, this will end soon. The good news is that eventually we will get all the votes counted and we will know who the next President of the United States will be.

How we behave between now and then says more about who we are than many of the things we have said during this election cycle. How have you been handling the stress of this election? Let us know in the comments below. 

Published at Fri, 06 Nov 2020 16:02:07 +0000

Stop Pretending You Don’t Know What You Want and Own It

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Stop Pretending You Don’t Know What You Want and Own It

Every day we have the opportunity to chase our dreams and live the life we should be living. It’s easy to realize when you are pretending to be happy with where you are in life because it feels incomplete. It feels like every achievement is hollow. 

Other times the universe stacks the deck against the things you are trying to accomplish. Nothing goes right, and there is a disconnect between who you are, what you want, and what you are doing.

Stop Pretending You Don't Know What You Want and Own It

While it may be easy to recognize, it isn’t as easy to set the course right. However, when you stop pretending you don’t know what you want and own who you are, the possibilities are endless. 

It starts with your dreams and aspirations

I believe dreams are the most sincere form of humanity. The very things that keep us waking up every morning. The force that is always enabling us to put one foot in front of the other; day after ordinary day.

A dream, by definition, according to Webster’s, is:

Something greatly desired; an extravagant fancy

Throughout my life, I have had many things that I desired with every fiber of my being. As a small child, my dream was simply to live with my mother. I often felt like they should have turned the story of my life into an ABC after school special.

Do you remember those? They were full of stories about being kidnapped by a noncustodial parent, a mother struggling with substance abuse, and teens dealing with trauma.

PBS also used to have a show that would address the statistical likelihood that children from certain situations would repeat those same scenarios. Every damn day it was like I was taking a test, one that I never had any chance of passing:

  • Daughters of divorced parents have a 60% higher divorce rate in their own marriages
  • Children of parents with substance abuse issues are more likely to abuse substances themselves
  • Only 7% of children in foster care attend a four-year college
  • Only 1% of children in foster care graduate from a four-year college

Despite all of that, I was grateful for my friends, teachers, and people who loved me. They encouraged my audacity to dream; I would grow up to be something other than a predetermined lost cause. I was laser-focused on achieving what I wanted and not what the paint-by-number picture ensured I would become.

These dreams felt insurmountable as a teenager: graduate college, find the love of my life, get married/stay married, have kids, and be happy and healthy. 

I’ve never been one to do anything in small measures, so I graduated from college (with an AA) before I finished high school. I was one of only two kids to have done so at that time.

Initially, I was supposed to go to USF and earn a Bachelor’s degree in Journalism and Mass Communications. Instead, I ended up moving to Montana to finally live with my mother and enrolled in an Equestrian studies program at a different school.

My mother died less than six months later, and I abandoned that course of study and tried to fix my life. I met my husband at this college, though, and a year later, we got married. We had our first child a year later, and my husband was still trying to finish his degree in computer science.

I began my decades-long career in service and retail management as a way for us to survive. Years later, after he finished school, I finally went back and ultimately ended up with a degree in Business Administration. 

Sometimes we realize our dreams, but they aren’t quite right

I had almost everything I had ever wanted, and I was grateful for all of it. However, in the corners of my mind, I still felt like there was more I wanted. I decided I needed to further my education with a Master’s degree.

Since I had been in management for almost 20 years, a degree in Management and Leadership made sense. The problem with that was I was still pretending I didn’t know what I wanted. I was about 3/4 of the way through the program when I joined a local writing group.

I told the lady running it, a local published author and teacher, that I wanted to write a book about my life, but I had no idea where to start. She told me to start writing a different book, and then I could write the one I wanted. This advice didn’t make much sense to me, but I took it to heart and started brainstorming.

After a series of strange events, I decided to write a book about what happens when you commit to doing something every day for a year; for me, that was a daily walk around the lake near my house. I would take pictures every day to document nature’s changes while writing about my own.

I walked. I took a picture. I reflected. I wrote. I did it every day for a month before realizing how much I missed writing, like deep in my soul. I came to accept that I was not happy with my career choice, and then I stumbled across Medium. This place where everything started as a blank page and anyone could be a writer.

I began to write pieces of the story I really wanted to tell. Then I got a freelance client, and another. and a few more. I walked. I took a picture. I reflected. I wrote and wrote and wrote some more.

When you get real about what you want, your life changes

After a few months of all this writing, something happened. 

I stopped looking at things the way “most people” do. When I went to school to get those business degrees, I realized that wasn’t what I truly desired. I knew I wanted to be a writer, but I don’t remember when I decided that being a writer required too much sacrifice.

Had I been afraid that I wouldn’t make enough money doing what I loved? Where was I when I decided it was ok to do so much less than I am capable of?

Do you remember the day you killed your own dreams? The sad truth is that dreams can only die at the hands of the dreamer.

The wonderful thing about dreams, though, is that they never really stay dead. There is always a way to wrest your plans back from the nothing where they go to die.

We can all achieve those goals that feel like extravagant fancy. You only need three things: laser focus, the knowledge that any other outcome is not an option, and belief.

Believe in yourself and your dreams. Stop placing limits on what you are capable of. Ignore things like odds. Paint your own portrait. Own who you are, and don’t be afraid.

How do you own who you are?

The first thing you must do is stop living small! I didn’t let my circumstances, past, and even my employers keep me from living a life that fits the extravagant fancy I craved. Not with material things, but the ability to say that I make my living as a weaver of words. I help and encourage others to be their best selves. That is no small feat. 

No one else’s opinion mattered, not that of my parents, peers, or friends. It is my life, and I am the one who will be living it for a long time (hopefully!). Maameyaa Boafa gave a TEDx Talk called “Being the Real Me Without Apology,” Her words resonate deeply with what I believe owning who I was felt like. She said:

Little did she know that for this career 

She’d have to do a lot of work

to overcome her fears

She’d have to grow a layer of skin so thick 

it would not break her heart

and later recognize that she was set apart

This is the first part of owning who are and achieving your dreams. Realize that it is work to leave your old life behind and relearn everything you thought you had figured out. Fear of failure and success can be as crippling as the words of a hater.

I had to learn how to take critical feedback on my most private thoughts. I also had to learn to believe that I was a talented storyteller. It wasn’t easy. However, it was one of the most life-changing and meaningful things I have done in my life. 

Are you pretending that you don’t know what you want? Please stop and have the courage to reach for it. Be you without apologizing, and live a life that you are excited by. One that you can’t wait to live every day. Own who you are! Leave your dreams in the comments below, and I will be cheering you on!

Published at Thu, 22 Oct 2020 12:13:52 +0000

How To Get Core Confidence and Start Killing It

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How To Get Core Confidence and Start Killing It

Confidence is so much more than being able to stand up tall with your head held high. It is a feeling, an inner ability to have faith and trust in the decisions and choices you make. So many of us have been taught confidence is an outcome, something you work for, a sign that you have mastered a skill.

Certainly, practice and effort will foster this type of growth, however, core confidence tends to run way deeper. Core confidence reaches further into the archives of your core belief system where your sense of worthiness, trust, and freedom reside. The steps in this article show you how.

get core confidence

How To Get Core Confidence

1. Free Will

When it comes to building core confidence, free will plays a huge role. You see, free will is what allows you to unbury emotions and belief systems which suppress your ability to feel confident. Now I am a huge fan of education and the role it plays in developing your inner and outer resources.

However, if you are carrying a belief that you are not good enough or that you have to do or be more to feel competent and confident, you are likely to develop a belief that free will and confidence take work. Learning takes work, confidence on the other hand, is a feeling.

Every time you shift your awareness to the present moment you are tapping into free will. Your attention to the here and now strengthens your connection. You see when you notice your senses, breathing and bodily sensations you are actually resonating with the free will energy.

Free will is the part of you that thrives rather than survives. Core confidence comes from a thriving rather than a surviving mindset.

Free will is something you were born with therefore time spent thinking you have to gain something you already have may bring about unnecessary strain. You are better off getting to know this ability as it is one of the key ingredients to transforming feelings of insecurity into confidence.

Without a connection to free will it can feel much like shooting darts in the dark, you are likely to feel uncertain about your aim. Here is the thing about free will you can’t shut it off it is a part of your design. Therefore, even at this moment, as you read this article you are utilizing your free will.

Take a moment right now to pause and place your attention on your breath. Notice if your breath is shallow and concentrated in your chest area. Just notice. As this occurs your awareness alone is likely to shift your direction.

For example, you may begin to lengthen your body by sitting up straighter or elongate your inhalations and exhalations. This change not only regulates the amount of oxygen and carbon dioxide in your body it also puts you in alignment with your free will. Unconsciously whether you realize it or not you may have actually shifted your course.

You see because the evidence that your course has shifted isn’t always immediate it is easy to fall back on old ways of thinking and being. Confidence comes from trusting your energy and awareness is enough. What you gain, from confidence, (e.g. strength and mastery) is a bonus.

We tend to approach it from the reverse. We strive for strength and mastery first. I say put your awareness on your energy first and trust the mastery and insight will come.  You see it is your willingness to move through the sticky or challenging moments with awareness which builds core confidence from the inside out. No longer are you solely dependent on what you can see.

2. Notice Dwelling

Now, I am not saying you won’t fall back on old ways of being which squish confidence. Thoughts such as I can’t, worries, fears, and insecurities may arise in the process. As you develop your core confidence it is important to notice where you dwell. Dwelling on problems, hardships or pain suppresses energy and dilutes confidence.

See dwelling as a sign that you have disconnected from your free will ability. Remember you are a spiritual being having a human experience. Children are the best examples of this. They see themselves as creators, magical and having the ability to transform what they see.

As you grow older you still have this creative potential within you. Since you are made of high vibrational energy you have the ability to shift your inner experience. What you shift on the inside, changes how you respond and see things on the outside. Confidence is the feeling you get from knowing this. To truly know something you can’t just think it, you have to feel it.

3. Get Creative

You don’t have to have artistic or musical abilities to be creative. All you have to do is give yourself permission to use your imagination. Take a walk out in nature and notice the world around you. Notice the images which represent confidence, perhaps an old maple tree, rock wall or bird soaring in the sky.

Feel the sensations in your body as you become interested in the world around you. These images are reflecting the feeling of confidence which already exists within you. You see core confidence is like an untapped wellspring. It lives and breathes inside of you waiting to be discovered.

Another way to build confidence is to see it as a blank canvas. Imagine filling it in with images, words and colors which represent confidence. What would you use? Notice if you hesitate, if so, pause, breath, feel and allow yourself to become more aligned with the moment.

Release any thoughts or restrictions which may be holding you back. It is likely, your mind will search for clues for how confidence is supposed to look or be. These are simply conditions and restrictions you have placed on yourself. Let that go, pause, breath, relax and allow confidence to pour out of you through a space of non-effort. Core confidence feeds off spaces of curiosity, vulnerability and presence.

Published at Wed, 07 Oct 2020 13:00:00 +0000

My House is Divided Over the New Mulan Movie

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My House is Divided Over the New Mulan Movie

We are huge Disney fans in our house. I have every Disney movie from my childhood on VHS tapes still. My children have watched them all since they were toddlers, and when they began making these life action remakes, we were thrilled, and honestly, a little skeptical.

“If it ain’t Baroque, don’t fix it…” However, Beauty and the Beast, my husband’s favorite, won us over. The Lion King pleased my son, who knows that movie inside and out, word for word, and Aladin has us singing in the theater.  

My House is Divided Over the New Mulan Movie

Mulan is my teenage daughter’s favorite movie. The fact that she stayed home with us to watch it proved how excited she was! However, after watching the film, we all had a heated debate over Disney’s latest live-action remake’s merits and shortcomings. 

The biggest critic

My teenager was displeased, and vocally so, throughout the entire movie:

“Mom, there is no Mushu!”

“Yes Paige, remember I told you there was no Mushu.”

“This is dumb, why did we spend $30!”

Then it was:

“Mom, they messed up the matchmaker scene!”

“Why does Mulan already know how to fight?”

“OH MY GOD MOMMY THERE IS NO MUSIC!”

And on and on she went for the entire length of the film. Now, I was thrilled by her reaction because my almost-adult child faded away in my mind, and I could see five-year-old Paige dancing and singing along in the middle of the living room. This is her movie, and she could recite it to you with no help. 

I laughed at her antics but didn’t realize how upset she was until the end. She turned to her girlfriend, who she had already begged to stay and watch this movie, and said: “I know we were going to go out, but can we stay here and watch the real Mulan?”

After an affirmative response from her girlfriend and her little brother, they put the original on. Paige sat curled on the couch, engulfed in her blankets, sang at the top of her lungs, and watched the movie without messing with her phone.

She didn’t have a single pleasant word to say, and I wonder how long it will take for her to forgive Disney for this “mockery of her favorite movie.” Ouch…

The biggest fan

As much as Paige didn’t like this movie, my 11-year-old son can’t get enough of it. He has watched it multiple times. He doesn’t care that there is no Mushu and thinks the randomly flying Phoenix is cool. He doesn’t care that the Huns are no longer the Huns and are instead the Rourans. He likes the realness.

He wants to know everything there is to know about how this other lady is a witch. I don’t have the answers, so he thinks the problem with this Mulan movie is my lack of knowledge. 

He thinks the fight scenes are fantastic. His biggest question related to the original involved figuring out who was Yao, Ling, Chein-Po, and why Cri-Kee wasn’t a cricket. 

The adults

My husband and I were smack dab in the middle of both kids. The movie, as a movie by itself, was excellent. The film, as a remake of Mulan, was not so good. The action was significant, but the witch lady needed more of a story because she was an exciting addition. I would have liked to have been able to explain her point and storyline a little better to my son.

The bottom line for me was this was a great movie… it just didn’t feel like Mulan. I would recommend watching it because the acting is superb, and I mean… Jet Li! I spoke with a friend of mine, and her house was not divided; they all agreed: “Great movie, not Mulan.” Her husband even yelled “Mushu” every time the Phoenix flew into the frame. 

Like the witch, the film introduced the idea of Chi but didn’t expand on it enough, other than to mention it repeatedly. It felt a little forced and awkward. There are some different situations regarding the film that have nothing to do with the storyline, causing Disney some grief.

Politics

According to Ryan Faughnder and Alice Su, “The online uproar escalated this week when it was revealed that Disney filmed part of “Mulan” in Xinjiang, a region where China is believed to have detained at least 1 million Muslims — mostly ethnic Uighurs — in internment camps.”

Politicians all over the country have weighed in on where the filming occurred, thanks to the ending credits. Disney gave thanks to the Publicity Department of the CPC Xinjiang Uyghur Autonomy Region Committee. Sen. Josh Hawley (R-Mo.) wrote a letter detailing how, “Your decision to put profit over principle, to not just ignore the CCP’s [Chinese Communist Party] genocide and other atrocities but to aid and abet them, is an affront to American values.” Double ouch…

Now the film was primarily filmed in New Zealand, which was also thanked in the credits. Still, a few other things made people mad like “Chinese American star Yifei Liu (a.k.a. Crystal Liu) for siding with Hong Kong police over pro-democracy protesters last year during a crackdown on demonstrations.” Our national house is divided on the subject of China, so I am not sure how much of this noise has to do with the movie. 

My husband and I were aware of these political undercurrents surrounding the movie but decided to ignore the #BoycottMulan movement and give it a shot. 

I’m glad that we did because I appreciated the diversity in these times. I enjoyed the movie, but I asked myself why I had spent the extra $30 to watch a Mushu-less Mulan early. I mean blue Will Smith as a genie worked wonders, why couldn’t we have a CGI Mushu? 

I didn’t tell my child, but I was thrilled we got to watch the animated one right after. Not only did it take me back to 5-year-old her, but it reminded me of myself when I was just a little younger than she is now—singing at the top of my lungs while my little sister and I watched the magic that was Mulan for the first time in 1998.

Published at Tue, 22 Sep 2020 12:10:02 +0000

Best Decision-Making Techniques for Life’s Tough Choices

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Best Decision-Making Techniques for Life’s Tough Choices

Every single one of us has faced tough decisions before. We make a crazy number of choices daily, some with little conscious thought, like what to wear, or eat for lunch.

You might question whether you should get gas before or after work. People are good at muddling through those decisions without needing to use scientific decision-making techniques.

Best Decision-Making Techniques for Life's Tough Choices

Other times, though, when facing decisions with substantial impact, these decision-making tools will be beneficial in quieting the internal battle. 

A twist on the classic Pros and Cons list

You have likely made one of these lists before. You know the drill, the reasons “for” doing something go on one side of the piece of paper, and the reasons “not” to do something go on the other. It is relatively simple, in theory, the side with the most things on it wins! 

However, the older I got, and the more critical the decisions became, the less this seemed like a good idea. I mean, I might be able to think of 10 “pro” reasons to move that range from “better weather” to “restaurant choices,” but if “I have nowhere to live,” is on the con side, that should hold a bit more weight.

This is why science has recommended using a value-based approach to these lists. First, write down the problem at hand, and make your list. Then, go back and assign each item on the list a number between 0 and 1 based on how important it is to you. So, “better weather” might rate a .5 or a 3.5 depending on how important that is to you. “Having nowhere to live,” might rank anywhere from and 8-10.

Once you have assigned each factor, a “weight” add up both sides and multiply it by 100. You have now taken the logic of the pros and cons and weighted it with your emotions. This will help you make a more informed decision, or validate a decision your subconscious thought has already decided.

Sometimes, seeing it on paper like this helps to relieve the stress and anxiety about making the decision itself. If it worries you that you might be too emotionally invested, you can always have a trusted third party, check it over for you.

Embrace Non-Binary Thinking

As humans, we tend to think in very binary terms. When it comes to decisions, we like to think the answers are simple: black or white? But life is full of many shades of gray, not to mention a slew of other colors! What does non-binary thinking look like when it comes to decision making? Here is an example:

I want to live by the ocean. My husband loves living near the mountains, specifically in Montana. For most of our married lives, we would live in one place or the other trying to build a life, but then of us would miss our respective preferred location and would move and start all over. We are currently in Montana and have been for four years. We agreed when we here we would not move again until, at the very least, our oldest had finished High School. 

We had purchased a trailer when we first moved here, and the plan had been to only live in for a year or so, and then sell/rent it and buy a bigger house. However, our payment on the house was small, and we discovered we didn’t need anything more significant, so we stayed a little longer.

The thought process that we could only live by the beach or in Montana is binary thinking. About a year ago, I considered different ways to each have what we wanted. Thanks to that decision to purchase the trailer house, we only owe 11K on our home. It will be ours free and clear soon, and then we will put money aside aggressively. That money will be used to purchase a condo by the beach.

I recently left the brick and mortar field of management to write and consult remotely. My husband is a software developer and programmer who can also work remotely, so we will not be tied to our jobs physically.

When we live in one area, we can rent the other home on Air Bnb or VRBO. Not only will we be able to live near the beach AND the mountains, but we will have multiple income streams. Non Binary thinking looks different from how you have been taught to think most of your life, but with practice and creativity, you can make some of the best decisions.

“Using the power of decision gives you the capacity to get past any excuse to change any and every part of your life in an instant.” ―Tony Robbins

Be Patient

A big part of my decision-making missteps has been because I want something right now (like I would rather be typing and staring at the waves right now). I have learned that sometimes, even when you know a decision is the right one, the timing might not be correct. 

I started writing last year and was one of the lucky ones who started making some money quickly. It wasn’t much, but it was a decent hustle income. It occurred to me that I could make more if I had more time to write, but I wasn’t ready to quit my job and become a full-time writer, I needed to see how long I could keep it going.

My income kept growing as I took on more work. Each month I made more than the last, but still, I wasn’t sure what to do. My job offered insurance and a steady check, but I thought it might be possible. The lure of working from anywhere was intense because that would make the dream I had of living near the ocean a reality.

Then COVID struck, and my company furloughed me. I didn’t know how long it would last, so I threw myself into building my writing business. And that ended up being the right time to jump into writing full time. Now, I have to give myself enough time to make other decisions as successful as possible.

“We are the creative force of our life, and through our own decisions rather than our conditions, if we carefully learn to do things, we can accomplish those goals.” ― Stephen Covey

Avoid complacency and following the herd

This one is tricky. Sometimes, we get comfortable with the way things are or how everyone else is doing something. We may put off a decision that we have weighed thoughtfully, out of fear, and then the opportunity passes. Not deciding and allowing the opportunity to pass you by is still making a decision. If you do this all the time, you will miss out on the chance to affect your life.

Our inability to decide things comes from the fear that we will make the wrong choice. Don’t be afraid; nothing is permanent, and if you make a choice you are unhappy with, you can always make a new one. Sometimes, the fear is based on what other people think, or how they live their lives.

“Not making a decision means forgoing an opportunity.” ― Auliq Ice

Just because most people do something a certain way does not mean that it is the only way to do it. People will give you well-meaning advice, but if you are making decisions based on others’ opinions, you will feel dissatisfied and unfulfilled.

Roy E. Disney said, “When your values are clear to you, deciding between choices becomes easier.” Ask yourself what you value. Is it time at home? More money? Power? A sense of purpose? Freedom? When you know the answers to those questions, and you make decisions that get align with them; you will find yourself being less afraid.

“Always make decisions that prioritize your inner peace.” ― Izey Victoria Odiase

Just decide

You can write out a value-based pros and cons list, research your options, embrace non-binary thinking, be patient, and decide. After all that, it may not work out the way planned. You might feel like you chose the wrong thing. 

However, anytime you use these decision-making skills to decide something, you learn a lesson and gain something. These skills and experiences will help you decide things in the future. Aligning your choices with your values will always be worth it, even if you think you have made a misstep.

Not every choice will have the desired outcome, and you will occasionally make a ‘wrong’ decision. Don’t be afraid, the fear, and the what-if game will only keep you from experiencing your true potential. 

“You can’t make decisions based on fear and the possibility of what might happen.” ― Michelle Obama

Published at Mon, 07 Sep 2020 15:21:12 +0000

3 Ways To Tell the Difference Between Constructive Criticism and a Hater

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3 Ways To Tell the Difference Between Constructive Criticism and a Hater

No matter where you go, or how careful you try to be with your words and actions, there will always be someone who will judge you and what you do.

Not everyone will agree with us. We’re all entitled to our own opinions. Some are just worse at expressing themselves than we are.

3 Ways To Tell the Difference Between Constructive Criticism and a Hater

“The trouble with most of us is that we would rather be ruined by praise than saved by criticism.” – Norman Vincent Peale

We NEED constructive criticism to get out of our comfort zones, but it’s not the easiest to handle. It’s going to help us toughen up and move on from situations we never thought we’d get through. Some are meant to be ignored, while others need to be put into action.

Imagine how soft, helpless, and vulnerable we’d be if we just kept settling for sugar-coated advice and half-hearted criticism.

Constructive Criticism vs. Hater

Defined as “the act of expressing disapproval and of noting the problems or faults of a person or thing”, (constructive) criticism is often confused with hateful talk. While both may present negative aspects, constructive feedback is less harsh than the other.

Constructive criticism:

Attacks/points out the action or what was said, NOT the person.
• Heavily supported by facts
Has logic and structure
• Gives person a chance to correct mistakes and gives room for improvement.
• “I believe … and this is why…so I think you should….”
• Builds someone up, even if it may sound a little cruel.
• Requires observation before criticism is given.
• Helps build an idea
• Tries to educate

Haters, on the other hand, will:

Attack the person, not the argument.
• Be biased and strongly opinionated
Talk impulsively
• Point out negatives, completely disregard the positives
• Result in unfiltered and insensitive opinions.
• Tear down opinions, suggestions, and ideas
• Cause embarrassment

In short, haters are people who use their freedom of speech and privilege for the wrong reasons.

Sticky Situations

“Whatever you do, you need courage. Whatever course you decide upon, there is always someone to tell you that you are wrong. There are always difficulties arising that tempt you to believe your critics are right.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

Circumstances when both constructive criticism and being a hater take place include instances wherein someone comments on somebody else’s body shape or weight, or at someone’s hard-earned output.

For example: the golden rule about mentioning someone’s weight gain is NOT to point it out it in the first place. Some people go as far as saying “oh my how you’ve grown/gotten bigger!This is an absolute no-no.

More often than not, comments like these will encourage you to start working out, eat healthier, or invest in exercise equipment. Nothing bad about that, they were just telling the truth right? Compared to people saying “you’re getting fat. You need to lose weight,” which one would you rather hear?

Other issues that convey negativity rather than constructive criticism revolves around clashes of beliefs or values. Sometimes, parents also tend to overstep the boundary between disciplining their children and belittling them for their mistakes.

Take this situation where your child comes home with a “low” grade:

Criticism: Darling, why such a low grade? What happened? Was there something you didn’t understand about your lessons? I know you can do better. Come to me if you need any help next time, okay?
Hate: You failed your exam. This is so disappointing. I didn’t raise you to fall short. There better not be a next time.

How to Overcome and Deal with Constructive Criticism

“I have no right, by anything I do or say, to demean a human being in his own eyes. What matters is not what I think of him; it is what he thinks of himself. To undermine a man’s self-respect is a sin.” – Antoine de Saint-Exupery

It doesn’t matter how good a day you’re having, one negative comment – constructive criticism or hate – from someone has the power to turn it all around. Receiving constructive criticism can be difficult to handle.

But when someone bashes you, use it as motivation to improve yourself and prove them wrong.

Don’t take it personally. Remember that the things people say about others are often a reflection of their insecurities. They take pleasure in discouraging others so they can feel better about themselves.

There are also cases where people’s voices and intonation make something sound worse than they actually are. They were just born with that characteristic, deal with it. Take this into consideration and focus on WHAT they said instead of how it was uttered. Choose to find the positive, even in a negative message, no matter how minute.

Lastly, don’t be the harsh critic yourself. Karma advocate or not, it always goes back to the concept of pointing fingers.

A popular Buddha story with various versions serves as a perfect example of a verbally abusive person’s slurs having a boomerang effect.

“After continuously receiving insults, Buddha asked the offender: “if someone offers you a gift, and you decline to accept it, to whom does the gift belong?” The man replied, “to the one who offered it.”

“That is correct. So if I decline to accept your abuse, does it not belong to you?”

The more negatively you react to hate and (constructive) criticism, the truer those statements will be to you. If the shoe doesn’t fit, move on. No one asked you to squeeze your feet in them.

Published at Fri, 21 Aug 2020 11:55:00 +0000

Instead of Saying, “I Need Money”, Learn These 10 High Paying Skills

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Instead of Saying, “I Need Money”, Learn These 10 High Paying Skills

Do you find yourself saying, “I need money,” too often? If you’re looking for ways to increase your income, the high paying skills below could do the trick.

Each of us possesses abilities, passions, and skills. There are fundamental differences to understand across these terms.

Instead of saying, I Need Money, Learn these 10 high paying skills

Your abilities refer to your talents or aptitudes in a particular field. Your abilities are your strengths or areas where you naturally excel. For instance, you may have a knack for public speaking, understanding science, or athletics, so you require less effort to master performance in these areas. Your abilities are natural capacities within you.

The things you are passionate about are the things that bring you joy. So, you may have an exceptional ability in science. But, you hate being in a lab; instead, you are passionate about speaking and sharing information with others.

Then your skills denote those areas where you’ve developed expertise through formal or informal training or by constant involvement and use of the attributes tied to growing that skill. Through study and experience, you may develop skills in Information Technology.

As you embark on your professional careers, your abilities, passions, and skills all come into play and can drive your success. But, your abilities and passions usually work to direct you to the skills you choose to develop and use to advance your career and economic standing. Every field and profession is not a good fit for everyone. So, as you look to earn high wages and boost your job level, you should look to match your skills with your abilities and passions.

If you could use a salary increase instead of saying “I need more money,” learn a new skill which may help elevate your qualifications and allow you to gain a position that significantly increases your income.

High Paying Skills To Learn Instead of Saying, “I Need Money”

Below you’ll find ten (10) high paying skills ( in no particular order) that could do the trick. Some of these fields may require education and training beyond your current level, or they may not match well with your abilities and passions.

So, don’t just grab one, but review the list and consider the applicability to your abilities and the compatibility with your passions, then set out to learn any that may be a good fit and that you think may help you meet your financial goal.

1. Data Analytics

In the field of data analytics, you will gather, evaluate, interpret, and use data for business decision-making. Your role will involve the use of statistics, communications, computers, critical thinking, and analysis.

The information you provide will help companies improve customer experience, provide the best products, function more efficiently, and manage finances more effectively.

2. Project Management

Project Managers typically oversee launch or changes to a specific business initiative. They handle defining the plan/activities, stakeholders, task ownership, and timelines related to each effort. Their work includes monitoring tasks, identifying and mitigating risks as well as ensuring deliverables are accurate and on-time.

3. Animation

With technological advances, the popularity of video games, public interest, and fascination with film images or characters that perform beyond natural abilities, the demand for Animators have increased.

This field focuses on creating images that form characters, scenery, design, or action in movies, commercials, internet streaming, television programs, video games, and social media channels that defy human capabilities or require superhuman performances.

4. Digital Marketing

This career field focuses on attracting consumers and differentiating a company’s goods, services, and products from others.

In this age of social media, this skill is useful to have if seeking employment with a company or if you are seeking entrepreneurial opportunities as an influencer, product developer, or entertainer.

5. Storytelling

Branding a company, product or person can result in recognition that drives profit or income.

And, again with the advent of social media and easier access to potentially millions of customers around the globe the opportunity to write books and sell digitally (in addition to traditional paper format), create and distribute videos and podcasts, there is a high possibility of earning significant income by creating and presenting your content online.

So, having the skill set necessary to uniquely position and mark what you or your company offers to customers can lead to high earnings. If you need more money, this is definitely a useful skill to learn.

6. Cybersecurity

Data breaches, online/internet security threats continue to permeate networks as well as online personal and business accounts.

As technology continues to advance, the need for experts who can assist in preventing cybercrimes and secure private and company information will continue to grow. If you have the aptitude and interest, there are endless opportunities to earn a significant income.

7. Mobile Application (App) Development

Technological advances continue to speed and improve access to information and simplify the ability to perform tasks. The use of Mobile Applications continues to grow.

It appears that there is an ‘app’ for every function, application, or company. Therefore, the need for skilled developers who can create, upgrade, and maintain these applications continues to grow with the demand.

8. Business Process Management

As the entrepreneurial boom continues in the economy, there continues to be a need for support from professionals who are well versed in business operations and organization as well as productivity improvements. Many businesses are created by entrepreneurs who are focused on their “unique idea” and not on the daily activities of the enterprise.

As the business grows: staff increases, products increases, functions increases and, customers increases, companies realize they need to increase efficiency, streamline customer touchpoints and communications and improve the flow and interaction across functional areas. An expert in the field of business processes can help companies and earn a high income.

9. Negotiation and Decision-Making

One method for earning a higher income is moving into a leadership position. While there are many aspects of leadership to consider, being skilled in negotiation tactics and possessing a good understanding of how to analyze a situation and make the best decision for the organization will earn you recognition and promotion to your coveted role.

The ability to influence others and gain consensus that is in the company’s interest as well as choose the best route, items, or activities to gain and retain customers will keep you in demand and on the path for high paying roles.

10. Technologist – Dental Hygienist/Ultrasound and Radiologic Technicians

A role as a medical/dental technologist offers steady employment and reliable income.

The role of dental hygienists, cleaning patient’s teeth, and guiding them in the effective use of dental tools and proper dental care is a field that will always require candidates.

Also, ultrasound and radiologic technicians develop the qualifications to use sophisticated medical equipment to perform medical tests and evaluations.

Which Skill Will You Learn?

So, there you have it. Our list of high paying skills to learn instead of saying, “I need money”. Hopefully, you’ve found a good fit that will help you meet your economic goal.

Which of these skills will you learn? Do you have any other useful recommendations to add? Let us know in the comment section below.

Published at Fri, 07 Aug 2020 12:21:00 +0000

7 Things To Do When You Feel Like Giving Up

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7 Things To Do When You Feel Like Giving Up

Life can feel impossible sometimes. Discover what to do when you feel like giving up.

While giving up seems to be the easy thing to do, it is in fact, easier to continue on the path to your goals. Many people have a tendency to give up because they don?t have direction. It is possible that they lack a plan as well.

7 Things To Do When You Feel Like Giving Up

While there may be a myriad of reasons as to why a person gives up, I would like to discuss seven things to help you go forward without the fear, anxiety and worry of NOT completing your goals.

You must remember that your goals are very important. You were the one who thought of them and wanted to complete them. Thus, you must resist the urge to simply abandon them.

Here are seven things to do when you feel like giving up

1. Start with a Plan

Planning is extremely important when you are setting out to complete a goal. During this time, you will have an idea of what you want and how you will go about completing your goals. (Here is more on creating a 5 year plan.)

Divide tasks into manageable steps. This will also help you gauge your progress. When you have created measurable steps, it?s easier to see how far away or how close you are to your dreams.

The ultimate end result should ALWAYS be the completion of the goal. There are times when we worry about stuff that makes us angry or frustrated, instead of the task at hand. Understand that there are small obstacles that will come your way ? but you have to continue to move forward.

2. Don?t Sweat the Small Stuff

Things To Do When You Feel Like Giving Up

We must remember that ?life? happens ? and it will also continue to happen. You need to realize that you can?t be worried about every single negative thing that happens. Know that you have everything inside you that you need in order to make your life better.

When you focus on what you have and NOT on things you don?t, you?ll feel a sense of gratitude and appreciation. Thus, the universe can provide you with more of what you want. So don?t sweat the small stuff.

When you lose focus on the goal and start sweating the small stuff, this is when you feel like giving up. So stay the course. This is accomplished by not worrying or being overly anxious about things that may come up while working on your goals.

3. Surround Yourself with Positive People

Being around positive people will help jump-start your activity in a way that you will continue on the path of success. Positivity is contagious. It will encourage you to keep going when you feel like giving up. Positive people will bring life to your goals, plans, and your very existence.

Having such amazing people in your corner will not only encourage you, but they will also help you see that other people genuinely believe in you. This will help you realize how valuable you really are.

Also, positive people usually encourage others to such a degree that they complete their goals mainly because they don?t want to let the ?positive person? down.

Positive people hold you accountable for the things you say you want to do. They expect the greatness that you have inside of you to be pushed out into the world!

4. Know the Difference between Inspiration and Motivation

Things To Do When You Feel Like Giving Up

I hope to share my perspective on this so that people can see the difference between the two, as well as their importance. In a nutshell: Motivation is temporary, whereas Inspiration is long-term.

People can motivate you to jumpstart your efforts in completing goals. This is needed in order to assist a person in at least starting. Oftentimes, motivation lasts only a short period of time. There needs to be something sustainable to take its place.

This is where inspiration comes in. It is mainly about the ?cause?. Inspiration will give you the ?reason? why you are doing what you?re doing.

Inspiration shows you that even though it may be tough, you know that you can save lives, change someone?s way of thinking, help others see from a different ? or even better ? perspective, or possibly assist people to become a better version of themselves.

5. Realize Your Strength and Your Power in Any Situation

Many times, people have a tendency to give up because they don?t realize their own strength and power. If you have not read it today, let me be the first to tell you: YOU ARE AWESOME AND AMAZING!!!

Your strength comes from within. Tap into your strength on those days when you feel like giving up. You must understand that there are going to be tough times ? but that does not mean that you should give up.

Giving up on your goals means that you are not only giving up on yourself, but you are also preventing others from having the opportunity to have a fulfilling life.

Let me explain: We live in a ?service driven society?. Everything we do provides a service for ourselves or for someone else. If you give up on your goals, your ?gift? that should be presented to the world will not help others as it is intended to do, because you failed to complete your goals.

In turn, you have prevented someone from seeing how your gift can improve their lives! That may sound like a lot of responsibility but we must remember that it is our very existence.

There are people in your life just waiting for you to reach success ? so that they may understand that they have the ability to be just as successful!

6. Allow Time To Re-Evaluate Your Goals

Things To Do When You Feel Like Giving Up

There may be times when you might want to take a look at your goals from a different vantage point. The assistance of a mentor, or someone you value, can come in handy. They can help you see what needs to be corrected or changed.

Re-evaluating your goals keeps you focused on the task you want to complete. It also helps you to understand your purpose. Having purpose will help you see that the actual goal is not about you.

Prolific speaker Zig Ziglar once stated:

?If you help enough people get what they want, then you will get what you want?.

Understand how vital your purpose is, especially when you feel like giving up. Re-evaluation will help you have a greater understanding of what you are doing, as well as WHY you are doing it!

7. Learn to be ?Outcome Focused? and NOT ?Process Oriented?

Many of us have been trained by schools and various organizations to think about the ?process? of things. While it is good to think about it (in a mathematical equation, for example) sometimes, life is different.

If we stay concerned about the procedure, when it gets tough, we will give up. The reason for this is: having more focus on the process and not on the outcome will prevent us from continuing. We must realize how important it is for us to stay focused on the ultimate goal.

When people are Outcome Focused, they have a tendency to not be so concerned about what other people are doing, or what trials they may face. It is their perspective that the goal is right ahead.

Outcome Focused individuals have fire inside of them that keeps burning. They understand that the ultimate desire is to maintain focus so that the end result is success!

When you feel like giving up, realize that it?s the easier path ? but to continue will make your life better. If you have a desire to improve yourself by focusing on what you want, then you must keep going. You can do anything that you put your mind to. There is nothing too hard if you just stay focused!

Published at Fri, 24 Jul 2020 12:05:00 +0000

The Truth Behind Why We Are Always Comparing Ourselves To Others

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The Truth Behind Why We Are Always Comparing Ourselves To Others

At the heart of most of our problems, both within and without, is fear and insecurity.

We fear that if others really knew us that they would neither love us nor like us. We fail to see our own value, while simultaneously thinking more highly of ourselves than we ought. What a weird paradox that most of us live in!

The Truth Behind Why We Are Always Comparing Ourselves To Others

As a person becomes aware of their own thoughts and shortcomings, we tend to focus on those things. Commercials call attention to our lack of white teeth, our bad breath, our lack of hair, and an assortment of other physical defects that are common to all of us.

This type of social comparison is often painful and rarely sparks any real change in our lives. That?s because it makes us feel defeated right out of the gate.

The truth, though, is that we really are living with different paradoxes. We are good enough ? but we can get better. Comparing ourselves to others as a target can be a powerful tool.  The difference really is in the heart. Are you comparing out of fear and insecurity ? or out of desire to improve?

Both of these paradoxes reveal the truth for why you should stop comparing yourself to others.

Paradox 1: Social Comparison Based on Fear and Insecurities

Obviously, this is the harmful version of social comparison. In old times, this might be called coveting what belongs to others. We get angry when someone gets the promotion over us, has a nicer car, or has a skill or talent that we wish we had at our own disposal.

social comparison bitterness

Strong feelings that we deserve more can lead us to fear that we will never be good enough, or that we simply deserve what the other person has in their possession. This fear often leads to great discontentment, which if left to itself, can lead to bitterness.

Bitterness is a dangerous emotion. It causes us to begin having immense pity parties and can rob the heart of its passion. Often, this bitterness causes us to find faults with this person where we explain WHY they simply don?t deserve whatever it is that they have.

When bitterness takes root, anger wells up. Many who fall into this trap will long to see that person robbed. When we live out of fear and insecurities, all of life seems hopeless and joyless. Our thoughts start to gravitate to an idea that we are never good enough so we might as well give up.

Examples in our world are plentifulAn ex-spouse despises the happiness of their ex and finds multiple flaws in the new lover. A star high school quarterback who never went pro finds reasons that the NFL quarterback should be riding the bench.

We feel that we can never be enough so we do the bare minimum to survive. We never get promoted, we never get healthier, and we never have a joy filled family life. With bitterness as the core of their existence, there can be NO happiness.

Life seems like a waste. Yet we can get bogged down here and live out this paradox for a lifetime while it eats away at our very souls. Passion dies slowly and we die muttering, ?what if??

Paradox 2: Social Comparison Out of Desire to Improve

Watching someone who is fantastic at what they do is awe-inspiring. I remember watching a man who had totally mastered Robert?s Rules of Order. The meetings he would lead were not only orderly, they were impactful and awesome. To be honest, I have rarely been whimsical enough and rarely studious enough to get to his level of proficiency.

But seeing him lead made me want to be better at leading meetings. I felt motivated. Think of how it feels to see an athlete do what is reported as impossible. Doesn?t that just kick you in the bottom to get up a little earlier, to train a little longer, or study a little more? Again, to be totally honest, it does not even need to be real people doing awesome things to get me pumped up.

Watching movies with action stars filled with courage and boldness fulfill a difficult mission or demonstrate great honor makes me want to be more.

social comparison quote family

Yet, I must look in the mirror each morning knowing that I am falling short of my potential. This may keep me humble, but the vision of superheroes accomplishing great things starts to make that image in the mirror a bit hazy. While I am not fearing or fretting, I am also not content to stay the way I am.

My family deserves more. My community deserves more. I choose to never be satisfied with who I am today, because I know that my future self is better. My future self can do what today seems to be impossible.

How Social Comparison Can Be Healthy

Now what? So what do we do with these paradoxes that so often keep us bound?  

First, be intentional about your comparisons. I have chosen twelve men and women from history that I study and strive to emulate with my character, my judgments, and my training. I call them my dead people council. As I step into situations, I wonder how they might look at the situation.

Beethoven often would look at a situation very different than Napoleon or Mother Theresa.  I can look at more options that way and I will be able to make the best decision possible.

Second, watch and listen to the world and what is going around you. Many in our culture simply write off politicians or intellectuals that we don?t agree with. Often, we will not look to the training of those in a sport that does not interest us.

What a mistake! Take time to learn from all sources. Listen to others. You may never agree with them and may never have a passion for their sport; but something in what they are doing is a teachable moment.

social comparison quote

This again is a healthy form of social comparison. As I watch other leaders, I see what I might do. But I also sometimes learn of things that I would never want to do. Either way, I win because I have learned from it.

Finally, read like a mad person. One of my favorite hobbies is to walk the aisles of book stores, particularly old book stores. I don?t have to buy anything. But inspiration and dreams can be seen in the titles and in short screenings of the books on the shelves.

Reading blog posts, book summaries, watching videos, and taking courses are all things that are in our world that gives us a healthy visual to compare ourselves and inspire us to do more.

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All our lives, we always feel either secure or insecure. It?s time to stop comparing yourself to others. Once you understand the paradoxes of social comparison, you can choose the path for yourself. Which reason will you give when the day is done?

Published at Thu, 21 May 2020 12:00:00 +0000

25 Best Spiritual Books About Life, Death and Love

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25 Best Spiritual Books About Life, Death and Love

We had a lot of fun creating this reading list of the best spiritual books for our amazing readers at Everyday Power Blog.

It?s important to keep growing and learning. Reading or listening to audiobooks is a great way to keep expanding your awareness.

25 Best Spiritual Books About Life, Death and Love

Spiritual books, in particular, will help you discover things about yourself and the world that may have silently puzzled you for years. We are very lucky to live in a time when the options are nearly endless.

Best Spiritual Books For Living Your Best Life

In case you are wondering where to begin, here is a quick synopsis of my top 25 favorite books on spirituality.

Each of them has deeply touched me and spurred me on in my journey, during which I have studied more than 400 works. Start with something that calls to you and let spirit guide you from there.

best spiritual booksI have bought dozens of copies of this spiritual book, and I hand them out to anyone struggling with forgiveness issues. It is written for children, but it is so powerful that I can?t   even talk about it without tearing up.

The premise is that all souls are good, but we can?t experience light without darkness, and the people who end up hurting us the   most in life are the souls that travel most closely with us, who have sacrificed themselves to incarnate as that darkness, according to agreements we have made with them to do so. They lower their vibrations in order to help us learn the lessons we have chosen. It will make you look at everyone differently, and honor those who have ?harmed? you.

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(I pretty much LOVE anything from NDW?including the entire Conversations With God series. A special shout out to The Mother of Invention, which is the life story of futurist and visionary Barbara Marx Hubbard. It?s not his typical work, but it is very inspiring. The thing that brought me the most comfort is that she says that she didn?t find her ?life?s purpose? until she was 81!!!!! Wow?relax everyone.)
best spiritual books Everything by Abraham Hicks is amazing, simple, and provides clarity that you can implement in your life immediately. This particular book on spirituality helps you view your emotions as a guidance system which will steer you in the right direction.

It teaches you the difference between ?Upstream? thoughts and ?Downstream? thoughts so that you are not constantly paddling against the current. Life is meant to be easy!

(Again?you really can?t go wrong with anything Abe. Ask and It is Given is a great start)

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This teaches 4 simple laws to live by that will insure a peaceful spirit. The basis is personal responsibility, and not letting anyone control you in a positive or negative way. It suggests that we have been ?domesticated? and must rethink how we relate to one another.

Here is an interesting teaching moment that I experienced. I kept walking by this book in the store and it actually repulsed me. I couldn?t stand the cover! Because I was having such a strong reaction I decided to purchase it. I got the audiobook version, listened to it, decided it was crap, and gave it to a friend.

He called a few days raving about it. He pointed out that not only was it amazing, but all of the positive changes I had made lately could be directly attributed to it. I was so against it that I couldn?t even see the beauty. I listened to it again, stunned at the insights?and have been a fan ever since.

best books on spirituality Everything you have ever desired is waiting for you to align with it, but you will never do so until you are vibrating at the same frequency as those things. This book teaches you how to easily get into the Vortex and stay there.

The amazing thing is how simple it is, and that you are not responsible for figuring out the steps to get what you want, but rather just deciding what those things are and then acting on inspiration.

Best spiritual books for life and love

Best spiritual books

This book is life changing for every woman who has ever struggled because she is different, special, and ahead of her time. Marianne describes us as mermaids.

We can come on land and play with men on their turf, and make things magical, but they cannot survive in our domain of the sea?so we can only have them for a little while before we have to say goodbye. We need to find partners who can meet us where we can frolic.

(Just read it all. A Return To Love, Enchanted Love, The Shadow Effect?blissful)

best books on spirituality All of her work is beyond amazing, but this particular one spoke to me. This best selling spiritual book is about how to channel grace in everyday life, and pointing out that your ?calling? may be something as simple as living in a particular neighborhood and being a good influence there. It helps you look at everyone with a more gentle, loving spirit.
Best Spiritual Books

We plan to experience certain things before we incarnate, and thusly create a life plan which may include circumstances that look painful or unpleasant to others who don?t understand that everything that happens to us in life is there for a reason, and that everyone we touch is ?helped? by what we have chosen.

This is really great book on spirituality if you are asking yourself why you have been put through certain hardships, the death of a loved one, disabilities, or health issues.
best selling spiritual books  

This is one of the best spiritual books gives you new outlooks and perspectives which have been gleaned from 2 beings not of this Earth. It answers a lot of questions about things that you might be struggling with from a different viewpoint.

best spiritual books

It is so simple, but few of us can do it. We need to give ourselves enough silence to be able to hear the wisdom of our soul. In doing so we can put an end to our suffering. We must live in the present, not worry about the pressure of the past or the future. A great reminder!

(A New Earth is great, too?but don?t listen to the best selling spiritual audio book while driving. His voice is better than Ambien.)

best spiritual books

This is one of the best spiritual books for every relationship. It helps you determine how you show love, and how you receive love. If your partner is speaking a different love language from your own they may be showing you love but you are unable to see it because you can only recognize it in certain ways, which would be your own language. It will change your future if you understand what to ask for, and what to give.

love does

In this New York Bestseller, Bob Goff shows how love can create connection and make a difference in our lives. This book will inspire you to live your life as it was meant to be lived.

everybody always

In this entertaining and inspiring book, Bob Goff reveals what it means to love without inhibition, insecurity, or restriction.  The book will teach you how to love people, even the difficult ones, without distinction and without limits.

Best spiritual books

until today

?Until Today? is an inspiring collection of 365 daily devotionals that will shift your attitude and help you live your best life. A powerful book for anyone on the path to spiritual empowerment.

Waking Up

This New York Times bestseller is perfect for those who seek spirituality without religion. It will help you understand that how we pay attention to the present moment largely determines the quality of our lives.

breathing under water

This book is for anyone looking for the essence of humanity. It offers encouragement for becoming interiorly alive and inspiration for making your life manageable and for dealing with the sin rampant in our society.

the miracle morning

In ?The Miracle Morning?, Hal Elrod shows how to wake up each day with more energy, motivation and focus to live your best life. This book has inspired thousands of people to start creating the life they want and deserve to live.

journey to the heart

In this book, Melody Beattie gives you the tools to chart a new path toward spiritual growth and renewal. The book seeks to help readers find true purpose in life and learn to connect more deeply with the world around and within.

Other best spiritual books

the 7 most powerful prayers

This book will teach you the seven greatest prayers that will help you create a life-changing, heartfelt relationship with God. It?s a great book for anyone looking for a way to grow nearer to God.

the power of a praying wife

Developed for women in marriage, this book explains how God can make your marriage more fulfilling as you pray for your husband concerning key areas in his life. Millions of women have been blessed by this life-changing book.

the untethered soul

This book answers the question ? who are you? The author discusses how the development of consciousness can help you achieve happiness and self-realization.

i've been thinking

?I?ve Been Thinking? is a great book for anyone looking to move forward in life with hope and grace. It?s a book of reflections for those seeking wisdom, guidance, encouragement, and inspiration on the road to a meaningful life.

jesus calling

In this devotional, missionary Sarah Young speaks to hearts from the perspective of Christ. The book epitomizes Christ?s love for us and offers a perfect companion for your spiritual journey.

battlefield of the mind

In ?Battlefield of the Mind?, beloved author and minister, Joyce Meyer, shows readers how to change their lives by changing their minds. She explains how to handle your thoughts and focus the mind the way God thinks.

the hiding place

?The Hiding Place? is an account of how Corrie Ten Boom ? a survivor of Hitler?s concentration camps, and one of the most remarkable evangelists of the twentieth century ? and her family risked their lives to help Jews and underground workers escape from the Nazis. Corrie?s story is a manifestation of the power of God?s love to overcome, heal, and restore.

the power of now

In the ?The Power of Now?, Eckhart Tolle explains why living in the now is the truest path to happiness and enlightenment. The author uses a clear, supportive voice to help the reader understand how thoughts and emotions get in the way of their ability to live in genuine peace and happiness.

Which one these best spiritual books will you read next?

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Published at Tue, 05 May 2020 12:00:00 +0000